The rambling soapbox of a discontented suburbia











{April 25, 2007}   books books books and women

So I don’t write here much.  Life’s pretty sumin’ at this point.  I just finished gobbling up Barbra Kingsolver’s book Prodigal Summer.  Best book every.

I want to be those two women.  It’s a great book.  One thing it totally made me think about was the fact that as humans we don’t think about personal responsibility.  This goes WAY beyond nature.  there’s the whole cause and effect thing and life cycles are DEPENDENT on each other.

It’s crazy how as humans we’ve separated ourselves from this.  I argue that technology is really something that has a big hand in this.  I was thinking about technology really gives us as humans the opportunity to be individual and do tasks individually.  We have to rely less and less on other people, other people’s skills and subsequently (however indirectly) less on the earth.  I mean if you go to a grocery store - you’re not really connected to the food as in where it came from, what was used on it as far as pesticides, how long it had; as a crop; grown in that field, what the condition of the soil was let alone the condition of the farmer, the farmer’s life, the farmer’s house, his finances and his opportunities.   We’re completely separated from that.  And we also don’t know what that single farm is doing to the ecosystem around it.  I’m a vegetarian.  I’ve heard people say (and i think it’s really cool) that if you’re going to eat the meat, you should at least be comfortable with where it came from and that whole process.

But this part of the book really sums it up for me.  “Her body moved with the frankness that comes from solitary habits.  But solitude is only a human presumption.  Every quiet step is thunder to beetle life underfoot, a tug of impalpable thread on the web pulling mate to mate and predator to prey, a beginning or an end.  Every choice is a world made new for the chosen.  All secrets are witnessed.”  (adapted from the first and last page of the book.)  Every life has an effect on an entire chain of life cycles and ecosystems.  I thought of this when I killed a fruit fly on my parents counter.   I wondered what predator was absent that made fruit flies so prevalent.   Now, that’s a ridiculous case.  But it’s true - if you kill off the predators with the prey, the prey will out number the predators.

But on a completely other note - there’s women in this book.  and this women blow my mind.  They exude the strong solid quite grounded woman that I COMPLETELY fail to see very much in Christianity.   There are the soft plush women that make great mothers and great christians.  But i don’t see the solid grounded women that can stand in any wind and make great christians.  I can think of 1.  (i thought of 2 but then was reminded of the odd patriarchy that enforced a severe courting ritual with their daughters for the second one.)  This is the cool woman that just exudes confidence, joy, peace and approachability.  Someone that’s not a control freak but is utterly in control of everything around them.  Someone with drive, with ideas, with passions but has the peace about her that her existence doesn’t depend on these ideas.  Someone that is competent and strong, who can do any task that a man can do - and she does it silently, unconsciously, and beautifully.   No one draws attention to it, its as if you don’t even notice it as odd, it just happens.   This is the old woman with the long beautiful grey hair.  it’s not but that’s what I think.

I want to be her.

where are the christian women role models who are like Barbra Kingsolver, Joan Gussow, and the characters in Prodigal Summer?  Are we meant to become the soft squishy women that will open their arms to all the orphans and love them?  or can we be the solid confident women that stand in the face of injustice and fight for better, even if it’s silently.



{October 7, 2006}   the duties of christianity.

Christianity is a way super convoluted, complicated thing with so much past mucking up the future, individuals and groups of people, and many many different sectors.

It’s interesting.

I was on a job recently and the client was an overweight person.  *disclaimer*  I am in no way shape or form trying to be disrespectful or rude.  This is strictly an opinion that is barely formed, and I’d almost feel relieved if you think less of me for it.  touchy topics, lots of triggers…  i’m rambling.  Anyways….   It was interesting seeing this overweight person, knowing they were a christian and then watching my mind snap.  There are many many reasons people are overweight, and there are many easy and complicated ways people can loose this weight.  Some are bigger boned, others have medication, or a medical condition making things all mucky.

But as christians, isn’t it an oxymoron,  a situation where actions speak louder than words…  I mean think of the classic 7 deadly sins.  Those aren’t even mentioned anymore.  Which is good on one hand because sin is everywhere, and the hard ones are individually torturous.  But there is something about it.  Gluttony.     that is highly not an “I’m third” attitude  (i went to a summer camp where the motto was God first, others second, I’m third)  it’s not a sacrifical mind set, something that is caring for your sisters.  I mean yea, especially in america where food is everywhere and fully accessible.  The hobos just want booze (thanks to suburbia i rarely have to see one *sarcasm*)  But its a community thing, but also an individual thing.  obseity is one addiction/sin/whatever you want to call it that is fully visible in the church.  gambling, sex, alcohol, drugs, shopping, work, etc. are all covered.  they can be hidden.

But we’re supposed to care for the earth, we’re supposed to care for each other…  *going grandiose here, one sec.*  people in africa, south america, san Fransisco and wherever.  they’re starving.  we’ve got huge ecological side effects and ramifications happening because of the mass corporate farming, there are economic damages happening because of our farming practices and all the little farmers taht are basically hooked on pesticides etc.   How is this caring for the earth and our sisters?  How??  i don’t see it.  I mean there’s something to be said about using what God has blessed you with, and if that’s lots of food than yay!!   but it’s a hard line to figure out.  And most of the time, I was talking today with some fun co-op people, and most of the time it’s just a diet change.  very simple.  cut out snacking, drop the salty/refined sugar crap we consume, lower the meat intake to like once a week, and up the veggies and fruits.  And half the time our breakfast food, like cereal is the worst thing to start our days with.  but that’s a whole ‘nother topic on something i don’t really know about.  This other guy was talking about it.  I dont’ know…  i don’t know.
But there seems to be an element of this that i’m missing, forgetting to think about or haven’t even thought to consider.



et cetera